“I almost think…”
“What we might want to do is…”
“I sort of think you're right.”
Have you ever caught yourself saying any of these phrases?
I have. All the time. I
kinda need to stop.
It's like I am a super hero who can never let my identity be known. I am the Superman of “kind of”, the Batman of “sort of”, the Spiderman of…well you get the point.
I really need to be more like FREAKING IRON MAN.
Actually, couldn't we all use a little more Iron Man in our lives?
Hedging Our Bets
Hedge words are used when you don't want to commit 100% to what you are saying. In my case, I don't even realize I am using them most of the time. It's just the way I speak. It's like using filler words in a speech. Kind of, sort of, almost, maybe are my ums, ahhs, and ers.
There are times when it is useful to use theses hedge words. If we want to spare someone's feelings or soften the message of what we say or if we are ACTUALLY unsure.
Most of the time theses words just undermine our credibility and make us appear less confident!
Banishing Hedge Words like a Super Villain
Lex Luther, the Green Goblin and the Joker combined don't have anything on the power of hedge words. They are hard to get rid of when you speak.
The first place to start is admitting that you have a problem. Awareness is key. When I hear myself use one of these words, if I can I correct myself.
If I am on a client call or doing an phone interview, I have a post-it note to remind me not to use those words.
Let's stop hedging our bets. Let's proclaim the Iron Man-ness of our thoughts, feelings and ideas.
Who is with me? What are your ideas for getting rid of hedge words? Share them below!